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Your Self-Esteem After Your Divorce

DON’T LET YOUR DIVORCE DEFINE YOU

Taking a hit on your self-esteem after divorce is perfectly natural but there is so much more to you than your marriage and divorce. How do you tap into that and regain, rebuild, and fortify your self-esteem after your divorce?

Watch this short video to learn what you can do starting right NOW to bolster your self-esteem.

If you would like to be in a group with others who understand the challenges you are facing, join my FaceBook group – Transitions of Divorce. In this group, you can get your questions answered by me as well as get the support you are seeking.

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Video Highlights

00:19 Why is your self-esteem taking a beating after divorce

00:56 What is self-esteem

00:14 The three things you can do now to improve your self-esteem

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HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO HEAL FROM DIVORCE? by Trauma-informed divorce expert & coach, Sujata Uppal

Does it take months or years to heal from divorce? When does the rollercoaster of emotions subside so that you can move on? You want to know what you can do to heal.

In this video, I cover a few things that you can do to take charge of your healing process.

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If you would like to be in a group with others who understand the challenges you are facing, join my FaceBook group – Transitions of Divorce. In this group, you can get your questions answered by me as well as get the support you are seeking.

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Video Highlights
00:43 – Is there a magical number of years for healing to take place
1:26 – Conflicting information about healing
2:54 – Can your friends help you?
3:27 – This will cause healing to slow down

ABOUT SUJATA UPPAL, TRAUMA-INFORMED DIVORCE COACH
Sujata is a life coach, mentor, and empowerment advocate for women. She empowers women through the stages of divorce to safeguard their future because decisions made during the divorce, have a long-lasting impact. Divorce can devastate the lives of women and children. She knows how hard and fraught with pain and uncertainty it is and is here to bring clarity and confidence and to partner on that journey so that you experience minimal suffering, and achieve greater personal freedom and self-empowerment.
Sujata’s goal is for her clients to have peace of mind during divorce, knowing that they made informed decisions that serve them and their children, and have a plan for a secure financial future based on goals that take into account all aspects of their life. She coaches women on how to create the life they want after their divorce that makes them happy, successful, and fulfilled.
Sujata has a Master’s Degree in Sociology. She is a certified Life Coach, Divorce Recovery Coach, and Singles Relationship Coach. Sujata started her career in the mental health field and moved on to educating Sociology to college students. In addition, she has led and mentored women who gave up their careers to become stay-at-home mothers, as well as those who were transitioning back into the workforce. She has helped women prepare for divorce, work out their differences, or find the partner they seek after divorce.
The common theme in all of Sujata’s work is teaching women about self-esteem and self-empowerment so that they can be their own best advocate and claim the life they deserve with clarity and confidence. This is what helped her get the outcome she wanted in her divorce, and now she uses her skills, education, knowledge, and experience to teach other women to do the same.

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What is Divorce Trauma? Trauma-Informed Divorce Expert and Coach, Sujata Uppal Explains

Usually, when we think of trauma we think of physical trauma. While physical trauma is visible, one can suffer from emotional trauma, which is NOT visible to other people and still be accompanied by a lot of pain, challenges, and destruction.

The social messaging about trauma is to deny it and bury it especially as it relates to divorce. If you do, you can never really heal from it! And if one doesn’t heal from it, then one passes on that trauma to the next generation.

In this video, I discuss the importance of understanding the emotional trauma of divorce so that you can heal and free yourself and your children from it.

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Are you feeling traumatized by your divorce? If you are and would like to have a conversation about it with someone who understands, take advantage of a free clarity session with me.

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Video Highlights
:55 – Is trauma caused by only physical events?
1:24 – What is emotional trauma?
2:14 – The elephant in the room
3:27 – Burying divorce trauma
4:38 – Healing from trauma
4:55 – Generational trauma

ABOUT SUJATA UPPAL, TRAUMA-INFORMED DIVORCE COACH
Sujata is a divorce coach, mentor, and empowerment advocate for women. She empowers women going through the stages of divorce to safeguard their future because decisions made during the divorce, have a long-lasting impact. Divorce can devastate the lives of women and children. She knows how hard and fraught with pain and uncertainty it is and is here to bring clarity and confidence and to partner on that journey so that you experience minimal suffering, and achieve greater personal freedom and self-empowerment during a divorce.

Sujata’s goal is for her clients to not only have peace of mind during divorce as they make informed decisions that serve them and their children, she also coaches them to have a plan for a secure financial future based on goals that take into account all aspects of their life. She coaches women on how to create the life they want after their divorce that makes them happy, successful, and fulfilled.

Sujata has a Master’s Degree in Sociology. She is a certified Life Coach, Divorce Recovery Coach, and Singles Relationship Coach. Sujata started her career in the mental health field and moved on to educating Sociology to college students. In addition, she has led and mentored women who gave up their careers to become stay-at-home mothers, as well as those who were transitioning back into the workforce. She has helped women prepare for divorce, work out their differences, or find the partner they seek after divorce.

The common theme in all of Sujata’s work is teaching women about self-esteem and self-empowerment so that they can be their own best advocate and claim the life they deserve with clarity and confidence. This is what helped her get the outcome she wanted in her divorce, and now she uses her skills, education, knowledge, and experience to teach other women to do the same.

If you are looking for more clarity on your divorce experience and how to heal from the trauma of it, book a FREE Clarity Session with me

http://bit.ly/claritysessionwithsu

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How do you beat the overwhelm of divorce?

Divorce and overwhelm go hand in hand. Untangling years of life together is an overwhelming process. There are so many things to do, so many areas of your life to manage – all in addition to your already busy life!

Often you don’t know where to begin so you look to the Internet for answers. The problem is that the more information you find, the more overwhelmed you become!

The danger of too much information and being overwhelmed is that it stops you from doing anything at all. You are confused, frustrated, and scared. Your future and that of your children if you any is at stake!

In this 4-minute video, I tell you two of the most important things you can do to cope with a divorce that will help you not only beat the overwhelm of divorce but get a handle on other emotions as well.

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ABOUT SUJATA UPPAL, TRAUMA-INFORMED TRANSITION COACH

Sujata is a life coach, mentor, and empowerment advocate for women. Sujata is committed to guiding women through the difficult transition of divorce so that they experience minimal suffering, and achieve greater personal freedom and self-empowerment.

Sujata’s goal is for her clients to have peace of mind during divorce, knowing that they made informed decisions that serve them and their children, and have a plan for a secure financial future based on goals that take into account all aspects of their life. She coaches women on how to create the life they want after their divorce that makes them happy, successful, and fulfilled.

Sujata has a Master’s Degree in Sociology. She is a certified Life Coach, Divorce Recovery Coach, and Singles Relationship Coach. Sujata started her career in the mental health field and moved on to educating Sociology to college students. In addition, she has led and mentored women who gave up their careers to become stay-at-home mothers, as well as those who were transitioning back into the workforce. She has helped women prepare for divorce, work out their differences, or find the partner they seek after divorce.

The common theme in all of Sujata’s work is teaching women about self-esteem and self-empowerment so that they can be their own best advocate and claim the life they deserve with clarity and confidence. This is what helped her get the outcome she wanted in her divorce, and now she uses her skills, education, knowledge, and experience to teach other women to do the same.

If you are looking for more information on topics like this then go to my blog at
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Coping with Divorce: Putting Self-Care First

 
When coping with Divorce Self-Care is the first step

Self Care Is Best for Coping with DivorceIf you are currently coping with divorce I am sure you are doing a lot of internet searches.  If you google the phrase, “‘first during divorce’”, you will find that the top search results relate to children and how to put children first during divorce. As a mother, I agree that children must be a priority in all divorce related decisions. However, I am a firm believer that in order to do what is best for your children, you must put your self-care first.

 

You can’t be the best for your children if you aren’t your best! Whether you have children or not, you will achieve the best outcome from your divorce when you put yourself first.

 

 What does this really mean, given that the definition of best can vary from person to person and situation to situation?

 

While coping with divorce, there are some essentials of self-care that must be in place for you to make decisions that serve your greatest good.

 

There are four areas of self-care that can be very challenging to manage during a divorce. I have created the mnemonic BEST (Breathing, Eating, Sleeping, and Tackling Stress) as a framework to help you be your best self during this difficult time. These four areas are interrelated and critical to manage during divorce.

 

Breathing

Oftentimes when we are stressed, we tend to either breathe very shallowly or even hold our breath. We might not even realize that we are doing this.

 

The phrase “waiting to exhale” can be very real during divorce. Since breathing impacts each and every cell, when we breathe improperly we can cause detrimental changes in our mind and body, making dealing with divorce more difficult.

 

In working with clients, my first advice to them is to become aware of their breathing. Almost all of them report that they do in fact tend to breathe improperly during stressful times, which can be frequent during divorce.

 

By becoming aware of your breath, you can focus on correcting it, which will go a long way towards surviving divorce. Breathing is also a part of mindfulness meditation so that if you are so inclined, you can make mediation a part of your daily practice, which will not only reduce your stress but also have other physical benefits as well.

 

Here is what Dr. Hedy Koder, a neuroscientist who runs the Clinical and Affective Neuroscience Laboratory at Yale University said about meditation in a TED talk: “It did to my mind what going to the gym does to my body – it makes it both stronger and more flexible.”

 

It was after a break-up that she started practicing meditation and found that after practicing for some time she “learned to have better responses not only to the breakup itself but about other things” which included physical trauma as well. In her talk, she provides scientific evidence to support the physiological benefits of meditation.

 

 Eating

You may have heard the term “divorce diet”. It is used to describe the weight that people shed while going through divorce. This is not a diet at all. It is the result of not being able to eat due to the stress you are experiencing while going through a divorce.

 

We all handle grief differently, so that while some women lose a lot of weight, others gain a lot of weight. They eat to combat depression and to comfort themselves, resulting in weight gain. In addition to grief, they may have feelings of rejection and low self-esteem. This can push healthy eating to the side as their minds are preoccupied elsewhere.

 

Both – losing weight and gaining it – are responses to the stress of divorce and can have long-lasting impacts on your health. Needless to say, it is extremely important that you stay mindful (here is that word again) of your eating patterns.

 

Since divorce brings with it a roller coaster of emotions, you might want to plan your meals at times when you aren’t overcome by sadness. That way, when you go for food as a way to comfort yourself, you will have healthy choices at hand. You might even consider seeing a nutritionist who can guide you towards making better food choices. The same is true for those who are not eating enough.

 

Sleeping

Both a lack of sleep and too much sleep are linked to stress. Some people develop insomnia because they are worried about the outcome of divorce and can’t stop thinking about it.

 

Experts call this “secondary insomnia” since it is related to a specific life event. Not only can this turn into a long-term problem, it affects your mental functioning and makes coping with divorce even more difficult.

 

While some people can’t sleep, others may sleep too much, which can be a sign of depression. According to the National Institutes of Health, the association between sleep disturbance and major depression is very strong. A discussion with your health care provider is highly recommended if you are experiencing sleep related issues so that you can develop a concrete plan to sleep more healthily and address underlying mental health issues which may be causing irregular sleep patterns.

 

Tackling Stress

women doing yoga while Coping with Divorce

Divorce is considered by many  to be the most stressful event in life (either equal to or a close second to the death of a loved one). I believe that it is far more difficult to process than any other life event.

 

Additionally, a person going through divorce often receives much less support from the community than a person experiencing another traumatic life event. This further elevates the stress that divorce causes.

 

There are many factors that affect the stress that accompanies divorce, such as the length of marriage, the presence of children, and the relationship dynamics of your marriage and divorce.

 

To assess the level of difficulty you are likely to face in your divorce, take my FREE Divorce Diagnostics Self Assessment Quiz by >>clicking here<<. The more difficult the divorce, the more stress it will bring, making it harder to cope with divorce. It will also require greater preparation and will take a longer time to recover from.

 

Stress manifests in many ways, both emotional and physical. Divorce can sometimes be so traumatic as to cause Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), which women are much more likely to experience than men.

 

Managing the shock and stress of divorce is a big subject and outside the purview of this post. Suffice it to say that if you find yourself experiencing a lot of stress either during your divorce or after it, the best thing you can do for yourself is to seek help from a qualified professional who can evaluate you and create a plan for recovery.

 

Each one of us needs to be mindful of how we can be our BEST self, especially when facing the challenges and stresses of divorce.

 

If you find yourself having trouble berating properly, eating nutritiously, or sleeping healthfully, your body is signalling to you that you need help. It is very important to recognize when your divorce is interfering with your daily functioning.

 

It is equally important to seek the help from professionals who can support and assist you both during and after your divorce. Divorce has the potential to be quite detrimental to your well being, so you need to proactively make the decision to take care of yourself in this difficult time.